Sunday, March 16, 2008

Birth Talk

So, I had this thought the other day. So many people, including myself, seem to assume that homebirth midwives are "protecting" birth and women. But, I am coming to realize more and more that birth survives and happens many times IN SPITE of some midwives. I never thought I would say this, but that is where I am at right now. I keep hearing of more and more stories where the midwife (in a homebirth, btw), is yelling "PUSH! PUSH! PUSH!", telling the woman where, when and how to push, and generally NOT respecting women's intution. It is almost as if there are some midwives who just give lip service to trusting birth, and deep down, they still feel the need to control birth.

I am not midwife bashing. I love midwifery. I am a student midwife myself. I am just seeing more and more exactly what kind of midwife I want to be, and realizing more and more that there are many more differences between midwifes other than CPM, CNM, DEM, etc, etc..... Thank goddess that I had P. at my birth. She is the kind of midwife that I aspire to be. She truly understands what birth is and can be if left alone. I pray for guidance as I walk down my path to midwifery to keep my heart open and to be honest with myself and confront my fears head on.


Anonymous said...

Halleluja! I appreciate your thoughts very an older-mother-to-be who trusts birth, yet is choosing a UC because I don't trust most midwives to stay hands-off unless absolutely necessary.

Anonymous said...

Just found your blog and am loving reading your posts.
I have had 3 at home and I learned something each time.
With my 3 baby (2nd homebirth) I wanted to breath my baby out. I did and it was sooooo awesome. I really felt little pain and my midwife said it was one of the gentelist births she'd ever attended. I've always wondered if that is why she got pregnant around that time :)
I too am so sad to hear the progression of birth at the hospital... pitocin, epidural, c-section!